How to Define Success On Your Terms with a SELF Made Audit

I’m sitting by the pool, sipping a new French roast coffee I picked up, and reflecting on life and business.

Oh and… Today is my birthday!!!

In about an hour, we’re headed to the famed Chateau Marmont in LA for brunch and tonight we have dinner plans at this amazing sushi restaurant overlooking the city.

I’m so excited!

I also have so much to catch you up on!

Ok so let’s see… Rain had her orientation at her new high school and she starts classes this coming week!

She’s wildly excited and we are too!

Summer is officially coming to an end so it’s time to readjust our schedules and our focus (more on this in a minute).

And Zak and I are great!

We’ve been working on a top-secret project that I’ll share when it’s ready and it’s giving us life!

AND… As you know, I was out of the office and completely off all socials, etc. last week to spend time with Rain and Zak in Maui.

And oh my gosh… this experience was mind-blowing!

Seriously, I can’t say enough good things.

We swam in the bluest water, ate the most mouth-watering food, snorkeled with sea turtles, had dinner on a yacht, got pampered with massages and skin treatments, and had our every need met by the lovely staff at the Four Seasons.

I’ll share more about our experience next week and how you can bring this same sort of service into your business.

But this week… I wanted to talk about something else…

You see, I’ve had this feeling lately that it was time for things to shift. In my personal life, in business, with Rain and Zak.

And if you know me, you know I LOVE change. Like… I could eat it with a spoon and ask for seconds!

I didn’t know what that would look like exactly, but I was ready and willing to see what the Universe had in store for me.

Before I left, I coached my SELF Makers in the SELF Made Membership on checking in to make sure that their goals were still, in fact, their goals.

I call this a SELF Made Audit.

I do this every year on my birthday and it gives me focus and clarity on exactly where I need to focus my attention.

It’s important to not get so caught up in the day to day of life that you wake up 5 years later, wondering where the time went.

We have to be intentional about every day.

And that’s what today’s issue is about.

I invite you to pause… breathe… and find some quiet time to ponder yourSELF… who you are, who you want to become, and make sure you’re on track for that.

Or not!

The choice, as always, is yours!

Cynthia

PS Remember we talked about me getting in the best health/shape of my life? Well… it’s happening!

It has not been easy (for the love of naked kittens, it has not been easy) but I feel so good in my own skin these days!

Shoutout to JJ Virgin for helping me age powerfully and The Model Health Show for the in-depth interviews around perimenopause and health as we age!

And of course, I’m using the framework of Transformational Nutrition to make sure I’m healthy physically, mentally, and spiritually. Let me know if I can help you with any of these things! Happy to provide resources!

PPS Finally…. A HUGE shoutout to Zak for being the BEST Instagram husband/photog ever and capturing my healthy self!

PPPS I’m deep in this book and obsessed! If you’re looking for a late summer fiction read for the pool/beach, you’ll love this!

Ok, ok, let’s get on with it!

How to Define Success On Your Terms with a SELF Made Audit

We often get so caught up in the grind, chasing goals, and ticking off to-do lists that we forget to pause, breathe, and check in with ourselves.

Are we still on the right path?

Are these goals truly ours, or are we just following what everyone else is doing?

A SELF Made Audit is about more than just reviewing your progress; it’s about realigning with what you genuinely want and making sure that your version of success is exactly that—yours.

And it starts with giving ourselves permission to pause, reflect, and re-evaluate.

I do this on my birthday but every day is a chance to rewrite the story, change the plot, and embrace a new main character!

Here’s…

How to Define Success On Your Terms with a SELF Made Audit 

1. Schedule Some “White Space”

First, let’s talk about white space.

This is the intentional time you set aside to step away from the noise and connect with yourself.

You don’t have to book a trip to Maui or Bali hoping to “eat, pray, and love”.

Anywhere that you won’t be bothered will work.

I’ve done this at a hotel pool, in a park, and even hidden in my own bathroom!

The point is to be somewhere that you can think, reflect, and gain clarity to reconnect with what truly matters to you.

Block out a few hours or even a full day on your calendar this week just for you.

No meetings, no tasks, no distractions.

Got it? Ok let’s keep going…

2. Define Success on Your Own Terms as Your Future Self

One of the most powerful things you can do is define what success means to you.

It’s easy to get caught up in societal definitions of success—money, fame, followers—but what does success look like for YOU?

Get crystal clear (like the waters in Maui… sigh…) on your Future Self.

How do they wake up every morning? Who do they wake up with? Where do they wake up?

What happens next?

What is their career like? Does it give them meaning and purpose? Money? Enough money?

How do you wind down your days?

What do you eat? Where do you eat it?

Does your Future Self travel? Spend more time with family? More time focused on your health?

I am crystal clear on who my Future Self is and every day I do the things she would do to ensure I become her.

This includes working out (even when I don’t want to), getting up early so I can have slow mornings and be intentional about my day, and protecting my time from distractions so I have meaningful evenings with my family.

Hear my words on this…

If you don’t create yourSELF, it will be created for you.

Your Future Self will either be created by default or design.

And again… the choice, as always, is yours.

Once you get clear on your Future Self and your own personal definition of success, let’s look at how your current actions are either getting you closer to being that person or… not.

3. Conduct a SELF Made Audit

This is a chance to check in with yourself and make sure your goals align with who you are and who you’re becoming, aka your Future Self.

It’s about being honest with yourself about what’s working, what’s not, and what needs to change.

Now this might be tough – especially if you’ve put in time and work already – but honesty is important here!

Sometimes you just gotta cut your losses for a much bigger future gain!

Start by listing out your current goals and projects.

For each one, ask yourself:

• Why did I set this goal?
• Does it still excite and inspire me?
• Am I pursuing this because it’s meaningful to me, or because I feel I “should” be doing it?

If a goal no longer aligns with who you are or what you want, it’s okay to let it go.

Does it get you closer to being your Future Self?

If not, will you change it? Shift your focus? Do something different?

Success isn’t about doing more; it’s about doing what’s RIGHT for YOU and your Future Self.

Remember, the actions you take today determine yourSELF tomorrow.

I’m even more clear that this is my time to “relax and grow rich” and getting rid of some projects on my list and consolidating others.

I’m all in on working less but making more. Delegating more to my team and not micromanaging them. Showing up to serve YOU in a fun way that feels like play.

I’m already planning my next vacation so I make sure I take it and don’t get caught up in the day-to-day and put it off!

What about you?

What will you shift, change, or get rid of?

4. Realign and Take the Next Right Action

Now that you have clarity on your Future Self and you’ve audited what you’re currently doing, it’s time to take action in this new direction.

Every single day in every single way, show the fuck up and act as your Future Self would act.

BE your Future Self today and the DOing will be effortless.

Instead of stressing about what decisions to make, they will come easily because they’re aligned with where you’re going, not where you are now.

And then? You just keep moving forward.

Keep taking next right steps and enjoying the process.

No stress. No overwhelm. Just clarity and goodness.

THIS is how you relax and grow rich.

THIS is how you become SELF Made.

SELF Made Membership

If you want do dive DEEP into a SELF Made Audit, check out the membership now for a full training on this topic!

If you’re ready to…

• Stop “winging it”, hoping you’re making the right decisions to grow your business
• Stop feeling so alone and join a group of people just like YOU who’ve got your back
• Stop dreaming and hoping for a better life and create in on purpose

Then the SELF Made Membership is right for YOU!

It’s time to create your life by design, not default.

Plus, you won’t just get the SELF Made Audit training…

In this group you’ll get:

• The mindset tools to ditch limiting beliefs and finally build your wealth effortlessly
• The exact client attraction formula I’ve used to create over $70 million in sales
• My anti-pain point marketing process designed to help people buy faster
• My 7-figure million-dollar mindset formula
• 100k Framework 6-Step Training
• Newsletter Secrets: Creating a Newsletter Everyone Wants to Read
• $100k Sales Secrets Workshop
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• And SO much MORE

If you have dreams of helping people, living a crazy amazing life, and having THE most fun while doing it…

Join us in the SELF Made Membership today!

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