How (Secretly) Judging Other People Can Actually Help YOU…

Judge People.

Now, hear me out…

Last week, I was scrolling on IG (hi, let’s connect) and noticed a woman promoting her new book.

I immediately judged her. Big time.

I asked myself, who does she think she is? What does she know about this topic?

Maybe she should work on all the shadow parts of herself before she starts sharing advice with the world.

I know… my Judgy Self can be a real b*atch sometimes.

But I let her. I don’t judge the Judgy Self. Instead, I observe her.

That day, I said to her… “Tell me more.” And did she ever!

When she was done (it took a minute), I said to her… which of those things do you feel are true about you?

*gasp* Stop the typing.

You see, the very things we judge others for are the things we don’t like about ourselves.

What I realized was that it was ME I was really judging.

Not that woman. It’s true.

Right now, I’m writing my memoir. I’ve been writing it for the past few years.

It’s been one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. It’s hard to talk about and hard to relive.

And the truth is…I’m afraid to share the deepest truth of where I came from and what I went through.

There it is. It has nothing to do with this woman.

Instead, it was ME that was wondering, “Who do you think YOU are to write this book?” or “Yeah… what do YOU know about this?”

And, it was ME who thought maybe I need to work on the shadow parts of MY SELF before I share MY next book.

Funny how that works, huh?

If we go even deeper, I was jealous that she had finished her book, while mine feels like it’s taking FOREVER!

Ahhh, the joy of being human.

So your assignment for this week (should you choose to accept it) is to start noticing your SELF judge people.

What are you judging them for? And which of those things are you really judging your SELF for?

Once you get clear on that, be gentle. Just observe what it is you don’t like about your current SELF.

Then, think of one thing you can do this week to become more of the SELF that you love and accept.

As always, this one small practice this week will get you one step closer to becoming the SELF you want to be. In other words, to becoming SELF Made.

Love you!

Cynthia

P.S. – Are Other People’s Stories About You Affecting Your Identity? Read this blog post to find out!